I have no compassion.
I don’t care about anyone. I am
arrogant. Or the best one yet, I’ve apparently
never endured hardship.
At least that is what I have been told, on quite a few occasions. Especially on social media, but also in person, often by
people who know me well and sometimes even by people I have been generous and
compassionate with in their own circumstances.
Why? I’m not really sure. Perhaps it is because I don’t label myself as
they do, possibly it is because I’m not afraid to go against popular sentiment
on a particular issue, maybe it is because they assume a label I may have means
they know my beliefs better than me. Maybe it’s something different entirely. I have a difficult time figuring out why some
people would choose to associate with me if they truly think I am the terrible
person they have accused me of being.
The primary concept that influences my beliefs about life is
that I feel people are capable. I have
faith in people. I believe everyone has
a need to feel a sense of accomplishment and confidence to be the best person
they can be.
I don’t give my child everything he wants not only because I
don’t have limitless money, but because I want him to learn the value of things,
and, more importantly, because I want him to know that “things” are not what is
going to bring him real joy in life. I
teach him life skills so that he will be able to take care of himself when he
is older. I allow him to suffer the
consequences of actions so that he knows that they exist and that they have to
be dealt with, even if that action was accidental. I don’t rescue and I don’t fix, but I do work
with him, sometimes in conjunction with others such as peers or teachers, on
coming to solutions for problems -
solutions that he can execute himself or be a party to. I do this because I love and care for him and
want him to know the true happiness of being an independent, confident human
being full of potential.
I feel the same about the world in general as I do my
child. I think the world is full of
people who are full of potential, who are smart, enterprising, strong, and who
will, as we all do, encounter things in life that are not always pretty. As my mom says they “will not melt” if life is
not perfect and something negative happens, rather they have the ability to
learn from it. There are exceptions to
every rule, but those exceptions are not the norm. There
are also those who choose not to be the best they can be, and, well, that is
their choice. But for the majority, is it really better to
treat them as if they WILL melt? Is this
what you would teach your child?
I have faith in people.
I believe we are all much stronger than many of us believe we are. I’m the one who will tell you to stop feeling
sorry for yourself and to pull yourself up by your bootstraps. And with that, I will proudly claim my title
of a compassionless American.
Here’s to everyone, and to everything I know you can do,
endure, and overcome, if that is what you choose to do. That’s why they have wine.
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